*disclaimer: I’m not a relationship guru and you definitely shouldn’t take your relationship advice from me.*
Like most moms in this day and age, I belong to a few (read: few too many) mommy Facebook groups. Some are super supportive and are aligned with my natural/granola tendencies. Others are social experiments where high school drama plays out online. It can be rather entertaining, to say the least. But you know what really grinds my gears? All the complaining about spouses and partners.
Here’s my list of 5 things you can try before taking to your local mommy Facebook group chat and releasing the kraken.
1. Sit down and talk to your partner. Not always feasible though and I get that. If this isn’t possible…
2. Call your partner. Too weird?
3. Text your partner. Even if it’s from the other room.
4. Write a letter to your partner. Bonus points if you have a carrier pigeon deliver it to them!
5. Spell it out using leftover Alphaghetties.
If I’m going to vent it’s going to be to him. Because talking about him behind his back isn’t going to solve anything. Sitting down one on one and talking about what’s going on is the best way to solve things. Not opening up and spewing hatred about them to a Facebook group full of local women you will most likely purchase a used jolly jumper from or share advice with on washing cloth diapers in the future.
I’m all for women supporting women, really I am. But I will not support bashing of partners and spouses. It’s not fair and frankly no one enjoys hearing about someone’s partner who “hasn’t changed a single diaper” or “plays WoW too much”.
What do you think? Am I off base? Let me know what you think in the comments.
PS: I’ll be sharing this post on these blogs!