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Survive Solo Parenting

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With a partner in the military, I’m often left to parent on my own while my husband is out to sea. Our schedule is quite unpredictable and we usually don’t know when Daddy will be back. I’ll admit there are times I just. can’t. even. The baby didn’t sleep well, we are late for play group, I haven’t showered (because WHEN), and I just feel like crumpling on the floor and crying my heart out. Solo parenting ain’t all it’s cracked up to be.

If your partner goes on frequent business trips or is in the military, there are some ways you can make things just a little easier on you and your family.


BE PREPARED

Before my husband leaves, I make sure to have a day to myself. I head out and get everything done I need to like grocery shopping. Running out of essentials like toilet paper or laundry detergent while my husband is away is my biggest fear since having a baby. I usually will head to the gym to clear my head and prepare myself for what’s to come.

BE THANKFUL

The sacrifice my husband makes for our family is huge. He’s out there without the two of us, bobbing around in the ocean getting sea-sick, I’m sure. He’s up all night working, sleeping in a tiny bunk bed, and eating food he probably doesn’t want to eat. I make a point of thanking him daily for what he does for us and the sacrifice he makes.

BE STRONG

When we were childless, I was awfully selfish and felt sorry for myself when he sailed. I cried, I pouted, and I stomped my feet. But now that the baby is in our world, I have to be strong for him. Half of his world is gone out of his life for an unknown amount of time. His world is essentially turned upside down. I can’t afford to be a mess, for his sake.

BE RESOLUTE

I’ve got this. I can do this. I’m the strength behind the uniform. I need to stay positive for my family. I like to send my husband emails telling him all I’ve accomplished without him being there. Instead of jealous he is proud that even though I’m going it alone, I’m still keeping it together and keeping our family and the household going.

BE POSITIVE

I always remind myself it could be a whole lot worse. There are plenty of families where mommy or daddy is gone for months and months at a time. That doesn’t make it easier for our family but it definitely keeps us from feeling sorry for ourselves. Each day that goes by means we are that much closer to being reunited!

Stephanie @ Mommyzoid

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  • Erin

    What a wonderful outlook! I have such appreciation for military spouses (either one or both!). I have several friends are in the same situation and they are such strong women. Not that they don’t have hard times, but like you, keep moving forward. Great post!

    • Thanks so much for your kind works Erin, WOW! You’re so sweet! It ain’t easy and there is always that element of fear and mystery with not knowing where they are or what they are doing.

      Thanks for stopping by <3

      Stephanie

  • Sara C

    I’ve been there! My husband was in the Navy for 12 years and there were months when I was parenting 4 and 5 kids on my own. It’s hard, but I know that I learned a lot about myself and the Lord when he was all I had. It’s totally ok to cry! We usually had a meltdown about 2 weeks in when we would all just lose it with each other, then we would repent, apologize, and keep going. It usually got better after that. Your positive outlook will help you a lot and you’ll be an encouragment to the women around you 🙂

    • Thanks so much for your kind works Sara! It’s crazy how many other families are going through the exact same thing, although you always feel completely and utterly alone in the moment. I feel like my husband is the only person I can really vent to and rely on and it stinks when he’s gone! But it’s not forever!!!

      Thanks for stopping by, Sara!

      Stephanie

  • Hello! Thanks for the transparency of your post. I have spent the last 6 months as a single Mommy and you are absolutely right – single Mommying is not for wimps! LOL. God bless you on your journey.

    • You’re so right! It’s totally not for wimps!! hahaha! Congrats on making it work! It ain’t easy!!

      Thanks for stopping by!

      Stephanie

  • My husband’s job has him out of town and travelling a lot. It’s stressful but I try to make the most of it. Preparation for me is a biggie… groceries purchased, meals prepared, etc.

    Thanks for sharing (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).

    Wishing you a lovely day.
    xoxo

    • Yes, preparation is key! The less I have to do outside the home when he’s away, the better!!

      Thanks for stopping by, Jennifer!!

      Stephanie

  • Ashley Egan

    I hope your husband stays safe and gets home soon. Thanks for linking up to Awesome Life Friday!

  • Kyla @ House Of Hipsters . com

    I don’t know how you do it girl. You are a strong, brave lady.