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“Oh, you just wait…” – What Those Veteran Moms Wont Tell You

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When you’re a first time mom, you hear it almost daily from a self proclaimed “veteran mom” who quite frankly has “been there” and “done it all”.

“Oh, you just wait…”

Hands up if this has been said to you before. *raises both hands enthusiastically*

and how did it make you feel?

Nervous? Scared? A little taken aback?

When my baby-less friends ask me about becoming a mom, I am honest with them. The honest truth is that it’s all so much fun. Being a mom is the coolest thing on the planet. And if they are really close friends I’ll share the gory delivery-room-details.

Some times when I’m wearing my breast-milk-stained v-neck and my yoga pants, drinking my cold cup of coffee, rubbing my tired, blurry eyes, I am able to step back and see my life for what it truly is. I have to smile and laugh at what I see because I honestly have dreamed of this period of my life since I was a little girl. As a little girl I don’t remember it looking so un-glamourus, but that’s likely because Pinterest didn’t exist. But it is just as amazing as I always dreamed, maybe even more so!

“Oh, you just wait…”

Wait until what? Until your baby smiles at you and makes you fall in love all over again? Until that sweet little angel lets out their first belly laugh? Until they take their first steps toward you?

I think it goes without saying that motherhood has it’s challenges. Most rewarding things in life aren’t without their challenges. I don’t think many people delve into parenthood thinking it’s going to be easy (read: poop). and in my opinion, one can’t ever truly be “prepared” for becoming a mom. You can read all the books in the world but nothing can prepare you like rolling up your sleeves and diving right in there.

In the weeks leading up to the birth of my son I started to panic because I’d been focusing on pregnancy for so long, I thought I had no idea what to do with an actual baby. I quickly watched YouTube videos on how to bath them, how to dress them, how to feed them…but this crazy thing happened when I had the baby! He was my whole world. After a day spent tending to his every need, I just knew what he needed. Before I left the hospital, I was confident that no one in the world (besides my husband) knew him like I did or could do a better job taking care of him.

“Oh, you just wait…”

So let me finish that for you.

“Oh, you just wait! That little baby is going to make you the happiest woman on earth! The moment you lock eyes with that little one will change your world forever. Oh, you just wait and see! You think you love them already? JUST WAIT! Some how you will fall more and more in love each and every day. Oh, you just wait!”

THERE. How’s that?

Take that, self proclaimed “veteran moms”!

Stephanie @ Mommyzoid PS: I’ll be sharing this post on these fab blogs!

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  • Iulia Gulia

    The “Just You Wait” garbage might have been my least favorite line during pregnancy!! I HATE IT! I don’t get it, why are people so intent on robbing others of their joy?

    • I have no idea! It’s just so rude! Like, “OH MY GOSH, LOOK AT THESE TINY BABY TOMS I BOUGHT THE BABY!!” “Oh, you just wait… they’ll be kicked off in seconds…” umm… ok, captain buzzkill!

      Thanks for stopping by <3

      Stephanie

  • Monica Geglio

    It always angered my to hear veteran mothers say “Oh, you just wait” I’m glad to have read this!!

  • Awesome, awesome words!

    I didn’t like the “just you wait” words. It was almost like a curse! LOL

    Thanks for sharing.
    xoxo

    • It is totally like a curse! I mean, what the heck, right?! Why say that. It’s like veteran mom is saying, “I know something you don’t know…”

      Thanks for stopping by!

      Stephanie

      • Exactly! Ugh!

        I loved this post.

        Thanks for sharing and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop.

        Wishing you a lovely weekend.
        xoxo

  • I love how you always turn something negative around for moms and share the positive side of things!! I’m sure it’s so reassuring to the ones who are in that boat of uncertainty and every veteran mom around them is scaring them!

    • aww thanks Jessica!! There’s always I positive in there somewhere! I’m sure un-sure mom just LOVES being scared about the uncertain future. I mean, obviously!!

      Thanks for stopping by!!

      Stephanie

  • Jamie @ All That Srocks!

    This brought a little tear to my eyes! It’s so true. I never knew how much I would love being mama. Thank you so much for sharing this at Hit me with your best shot! I’m pinning, tweeting, facebooking, google+’ing it !

  • Lisa @ Fun Money Finds

    When we were pregnant with my oldest, we got so much unwanted advice that my husband and I made a pact not to offer another other newly pregnant friends advice (unless they asked of course). I don’t know why some people feel the need to give so many “warnings”. Yes, it’s difficult at times but overall so wonderful that it overshadows any difficult moments.

  • Such a wonderful, hones and inspiring post! Love the way you write about the motherhood, it calms me down 🙂

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  • You are so right! I’ve had my share of “Oh you just wait” moments as well, and I never really quite understood why the tone was filled with such negativity and a bit of fear too. I agree: motherhood is challenging, but the approach shouldn’t be one of defeat, but one of gratefulness instead. Just like what you’ve done here, we need more positivity in approaching motherhood. It’s chaotic and challenging enough, a bit of fun and smile should balance it out plenty, right? Thank you for sharing 🙂

  • Great thoughts. Usually “Just you wait…” is so negative! Of course there are parts of our job as moms that aren’t so great, but they don’t define the whole job.

  • “Just you wait” irks me as well, because it’s usually the beginning of a negative story about childbirth or parenting. It’s like they’re trying to talk me out of it! Thank you for turning that phrase on its head and making it about the positive parts of this journey. Everyone knows that there are challenges to parenting, everyone knows you can never be 100% ready. Everyone has worries about how good a mom they’re going to be, and anxiety about sleepless nights or their child’s wellbeing. But as a society we have to start talking more about the GOOD parts of parenthood, less focusing on the bad. Thank you for the encouragement!

  • Ugh. I rember getting that too, along with other great gems like, “Make sure you enjoy your rest now because you won’t be sleeping for the next ten years.” Yes, thanks for that. Between having to pee sixteen times a night and having to rearrange my pillows twice an hour – pregnant sleep is awesome. Some ladies mean well, and others are just starting the one upsmanship early. Three years after my first baby I’m still trying to steal clear of the latter! Thank you for the read, so true!!

  • When I hear this I always wonder if that mom liked it when someone said those things to her. I know I don’t and I hope I never share negative words of advice to a friend.

    Thank you for your positive words on parenthood! 🙂

  • I absolutely love this. Not only does that statement need to be retired, but those moms also need to learn a little grace. I can understand the thought that pregnant moms/new moms will experience even more as time passes, but the phrasing is just so condescending. I think they should rephrase it to, “I can’t wait for you to experience…xyz.”

  • AskLatisha1

    I love this post. It makes me sad how these older women/ “veteran moms” can see their children as burdens, can’t wait to rush them off to school, can’t wait for them to grow up and leave the house. I am with you, despite the challenges, I fall in love with my children more everyday. I am so honored that you shared this with TGI Saturdays Blog Hop. I truly hope you come again. You made me smile this morning. Blessings to you.

  • My Mom is definitely a veteran–7 kids, and now that most of us are grown, she does fulltime childcare for 3 toddlers. This is exactly the kind of message I’ve always heard from her–kids are the coolest thing ever and make life even awesome-er. I have always loved that she is so encouraging on this topic even though she’s ‘done it all’ in some not-very-good-situations, too.

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  • Love this! I always try to encourage new moms, of course there are difficult times but I always tell them that the good by far outweighs those bad times/days. What a great article! Totally sharing! XO Thanks for linking up on the Saturday spotlight!

  • Gentle Joy

    Good points!!! Raising children has so many challenges, BUT there are also so many wonderful rewards… 🙂

  • I always appreciate when someone points out how awesome it is to be a mom. The problem is, before you have kids, you just don’t understand how those little people can bring you such profound joy, in spite of all the challenges of parenthood. Always talking about how hard it is I think discourages many people from wanting children. It’s so important to emphasize the blessing it is to be a parent!
    Also, I found your post at the Weekend Retreat–it caught my eye because I noticed the round little cloth diapered bottom–I have one of those running around at my house (not me, haha) 🙂

  • This is the sweetest post on the planet! It really is truly amazing isn’t it! Being a mom is easily the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but it’s also easily the best!

  • Love This! Most times people have the best of intentions but you are so right, sometimes those few little words can do more harm than good. I love that you found the good…thanks for sharing it with us over at The Mommy Monday Blog Hop this week!

  • I loved this post! Being a mommy is such a joy! Thanks for a great read

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  • Love this! There’s too much negativity out there, and yes it is hard, but it is so rewarding. Love that you’re sharing the positive side of motherhood.

  • Jennifer Duncan

    I have heard this before and I have said it before also! But in a positive way! I have a child-less sister and she is always complaining about moms and their choices. But I have to reminder her to just wait. One day she will understand why we think it’s cute when our kids poop in the potty or why it’s harder for mom to yell at her child when she thinks they need to be laying down the law! Just wait because one day you will understand the love and why being a mom is so hard and so wonderful all at the same time! =)

  • Amy@HomeRemedies

    Sadly, “just you wait” will be said all throughout your kiddos lives! Each stage brings new challenges! Thanks for showing us the other side of this statement! So glad you linked up at Talented Tuesdays!

  • Love it! I hate how some people are so negative about having a child. I’m a new mommy and baby is due in May. I can’t wait. Thanks for this 🙂

  • AMEN! “oh, you just wait” has been the bane of my existence all pregnancy long and it even worsened once I had my nugget. My token response? “I CAN’T WAIT!” =)