In the next few months I’ll be packing my lunch and heading back to work. Right now it feels a little unmanageable seeing as I barely have the time (let alone the energy) to get dressed nicely in the morning, do my hair and make up, and get us out the door to run errands.
This is part one of my series titled “Back to Work After Baby”, where I take a good hard look inside and compare me at work vs. me at home.
Through out this series I’ll share how our family is preparing for this life-altering change to our daily routine. I’ll cover such topics as Nursing At Work, Choosing Childcare, Night Time Routines, and Meal Planning.
There are so many things to consider when you decide to go back to work after having a baby. Once my son came into my life I couldn’t imagine leaving him. But I always knew my plan was to go back to work, I just couldn’t see how anyone could pry my son from my hands, hand me a microphone and send me back out to report the local news. But I here I am and I’m determined to get our family through this time of transition.
To help me mentally prepare for my journey back to work, I scribbled out a list to help me visualize why me going back to work was the best thing for our family. This is my list and will be vastly different from someone else’s list. This isn’t meant to keep stoking the firey war that seems to rage on between stay at home moms and working moms.
Me if I went back to work…
This one seems like a no brainer. I don’t regard money as the be all end all and it in no way trumps my happiness but it sure is nice to have some extra coin to spend on new clothes, vacations, savings…you name it.
K, so I will preface this with saying I love my son soooo much and I love the time we spend together BUT I enjoy adult conversations, as well! There is room in my life for both. Stimulating my mind is important. I’ve felt like my brain has got a little… well… mushy…while I’ve been away from the office. That’s one of the main reasons I began this blog so I could have something to keep my mind sharp during nap time.
We have found an amazing woman to look after our son while I am at work. Her programming is amazing, the environment is stimulating, and she is caring. Our son will get more out of being with her and other kids around his own age than being at home with me simply for the fact that when he’s in my care I’m also cleaning the house, doing laundry, making meals, etc.
I absolutely love my job as a local news reporter. Every single day is a new adventure and I honestly don’t know what is in store for me from day to day. I’m pushed out of my comfort zone daily and it’s very thrilling. No joke, I have electricity zinging through me just thinking about my job. Rare, right?
Me if I stayed home…
No one is going to pay me to stay home with my son. Although in theory we’d save money on child care costs, I wouldn’t have any extra money to spend. Like, at all.
I have a history of depression and I can see myself slipping back into a state of hopelessness if I was to stay at home. Even while on maternity leave I’ve had pangs of guilt, even though I know I am contributing to my family in a very important way, even if it’s not monetarily.
I would love to be the one to spend majority of the day with my son, but that being said, we would have to go outside of the home for interaction with other kids his own age and it would be in a playgroup setting as opposed to a group child care setting. Our son seems to thrive when he’s left to interact with other kids and as an only child, he doesn’t have the opportunity to play with other kids regularly.
My career would essentially be put on hold until I decide to go back into the workforce. Because I work in the media field which seems to be ever-evolving, I know the landscape will change drastically over the next 5 to 10 years. If I attempt to get back into it a few years down the road, I don’t reckon I’d have much success.
Keep in mind this my list. My experiences, family dynamic & situation, personality and countless other factors go into this list. This isn’t to say that working is better than staying home with kiddies. I also understand I am fortunate to have a choice
I hope you’ll come back next week and check out my post on choosing a child care provider.
PS: I’ll be sharing this post on these blogs.