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Back to Work After Baby – Me at Work vs. Me at Home


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In the next few months I’ll be packing my lunch and heading back to work. Right now it feels a little unmanageable seeing as I barely have the time (let alone the energy) to get dressed nicely in the morning, do my hair and make up, and get us out the door to run errands.

This is part one of my series titled “Back to Work After Baby”, where I take a good hard look inside and compare me at work vs. me at home.

Through out this series I’ll share how our family is preparing for this life-altering change to our daily routine. I’ll cover such topics as Nursing At Work, Choosing Childcare, Night Time Routines, and Meal Planning.


There are so many things to consider when you decide to go back to work after having a baby. Once my son came into my life I couldn’t imagine leaving him. But I always knew my plan was to go back to work, I just couldn’t see how anyone could pry my son from my hands, hand me a microphone and send me back out to report the local news. But I here I am and I’m determined to get our family through this time of transition.

To help me mentally prepare for my journey back to work, I scribbled out a list to help me visualize why me going back to work was the best thing for our family. This is my list and will be vastly different from someone else’s list. This isn’t meant to keep stoking the firey war that seems to rage on between stay at home moms and working moms.

Me if I went back to work…

MONEY

This one seems like a no brainer. I don’t regard money as the be all end all and it in no way trumps my happiness but it sure is nice to have some extra coin to spend on new clothes, vacations, savings…you name it.

MENTAL HEALTH

K, so I will preface this with saying I love my son soooo much and I love the time we spend together BUT I enjoy adult conversations, as well! There is room in my life for both. Stimulating my mind is important. I’ve felt like my brain has got a little… well… mushy…while I’ve been away from the office. That’s one of the main reasons I began this blog so I could have something to keep my mind sharp during nap time.

CHILDCARE

We have found an amazing woman to look after our son while I am at work. Her programming is amazing, the environment is stimulating, and she is caring. Our son will get more out of being with her and other kids around his own age than being at home with me simply for the fact that when he’s in my care I’m also cleaning the house, doing laundry, making meals, etc.

CAREER

I absolutely love my job as a local news reporter. Every single day is a new adventure and I honestly don’t know what is in store for me from day to day. I’m pushed out of my comfort zone daily and it’s very thrilling. No joke, I have electricity zinging through me just thinking about my job. Rare, right?

Me if I stayed home…

MONEY

No one is going to pay me to stay home with my son. Although in theory we’d save money on child care costs, I wouldn’t have any extra money to spend. Like, at all.

MENTAL HEALTH

I have a history of depression and I can see myself slipping back into a state of hopelessness if I was to stay at home. Even while on maternity leave I’ve had pangs of guilt, even though I know I am contributing to my family in a very important way, even if it’s not monetarily.

CHILDCARE

I would love to be the one to spend majority of the day with my son, but that being said, we would have to go outside of the home for interaction with other kids his own age and it would be in a playgroup setting as opposed to a group child care setting. Our son seems to thrive when he’s left to interact with other kids and as an only child, he doesn’t have the opportunity to play with other kids regularly.

CAREER

My career would essentially be put on hold until I decide to go back into the workforce. Because I work in the media field which seems to be ever-evolving, I know the landscape will change drastically over the next 5 to 10 years. If I attempt to get back into it a few years down the road, I don’t reckon I’d have much success.

Keep in mind this my list. My experiences, family dynamic & situation, personality and countless other factors go into this list. This isn’t to say that working is better than staying home with kiddies. I also understand I am fortunate to have a choice

I hope you’ll come back next week and check out my post on choosing a child care provider.

Stephanie @ MommyzoidPS: I’ll be sharing this post on these blogs.

 

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  • I totally crave the adult interaction of working outside the home! Good luck heading back to work 🙂

    • Thanks for the encouraging words! Totally, right? If only pre-baby me could see the things I do and say around the house when I’m all alone, playing with the baby! UGH!

  • Sue Charlesworth

    Good for you, Steph; that’s a thoughtful list of pros and cons on both sides. Neither option is easy, and neither is right for everyone! I assume you had expert help in finding a great caregiver and that’s one of the important keys to making it work.

  • Amy

    I am dreading going back to work but I know it’s for the best. Putting my first born in daycare was great for him and having something outside of the home for myself was good for my sanity. This list reminds me that It’s not the end of the world when it’s time to head back to work. Thanks for sharing!

    • Even though it definatly feels like the end of the world! But really, it’s just another new chapter! I totally see it as a great opportunity for my son to have some independence and learn some new things he wouldn’t at home. I’m glad it was a positive experience for you!!

  • yanique

    It is hard because there are pros and cons to both. I love being home but I do miss the camaraderie with work colleagues. Good luck to you.#mommymondaybloghop

  • Best of luck to you in your decision, it’s good that you’ve thought it out. “Money” had me raising my eyebrows, though. Studies show that if you have enough to meet your basic needs, your level of happiness doesn’t change very much no matter how much extra money you have.

  • I love how much you’ve thought this out, that’s so smart. Yeah, neither decision is an easy one to make, but there are definitely pros and cons on each side, so it’s best to focus on the positives and do what you need to!

  • Well said, Steph and very sound list on both sides of the spectrum. I agree with you about the mental health point. It can get pretty lonely staying at home–for baby and mommy, so taking a bit of time to work to stimulate your brain is just fine. You’re so lucky to have found such a great caregiver for your son. I will definitely be back next week to read how you decided on her. Thanks for sharing and for hosting this week!

  • This looks like a wonderful topic! I think it will be a wonderful resource. Looking forward to reading it!

  • Going back to work after having kids is not easy… not only are you dealing with the sadness of leaving the bambino, but just getting to work on time is a struggle. I’m a full time litigator with a three year old and toddler and have been there, done that. It’s hard, but I think working makes me a better mom.

  • Neringa

    A good article! I went trough the same considerations. But life is so unpredictable…
    I was convinced I woulds be back to work as financial manager, the profession I worked hard for several years (professional exams, etc). but here we go – after a few years at home with my kids, now I am working in social media, and loving it:-)
    I am still to post you those swim diapers. They are on my list! I did not forget:-)

  • Kyla @ House Of Hipsters . com

    Good post lady. It was so difficult for me to return to work after the babies, but I had no choice. If we wanted a house, I had to. My last month of maternity leave was filed with tears. Thank you for sharing your list.

  • I love this post, but I hope it didn’t come from the need to justify your decision. I feel the same way as you about staying home. I’ve never visited a therapist for depression, but I know myself well enough to know what I would look and feel like if I were to stay home with my son. …and it ain’t pretty!

  • What a good detailed list of the pros and cons of this decision process. I like how you mentioned at the end to be fortunate to have a choice… I feel the same way.

    Thanks for sharing (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).

    Wishing you a lovely weekend.
    xoxo

  • Making a pro and con list is the perfect way to begin preparing for your decision to go back to work! Everyone’s situation is different and we all ‘make it work’ on some level. I am excited for this series; even as a stay at home mom, tips on all of those topics are great! I’m a sucker for all kinds of mommy advice, haha.

  • It’s a great, practical way to look at your options. Great reminder that every home is not the same and what works for one mom may not work for another. You’re featured this week at the Saturday Soiree!

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