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A Letter to my Pre-Motherhood Self

May 8, 2017

Photo by Morgan Webb Photography

I can’t begin to describe to someone who’s about to become a mom how motherhood is going to feel. It’s just impossible to predict how it will feel for any given individual. My story has been remarkably normal, and not because it’s been without trials and tribulations. That’s exactly what has made it so terribly normal. It’s normal to have highs and lows. Every emotion & experience I’ve had has been completely and utterly normal. These kids of mine have changed me in ways I didn’t know were possible. Motherhood is a beautiful thing!

Not only is Mother’s Day in the month of May but May is also National Maternal Depression Awareness Month. In honor of this very important topic, I’m sharing a glimpse into my experience with motherhood, anxiety, depression and OCD. It breaks my heart to think of the thousands of women out there suffering in silence. I won’t be silent any longer because by sharing my story I know other women might see themselves in my words and seek the help they deserve.

This post is part of the ECM Media Mother’s Day Blog Hop! Stick through to the end to see all the posts from other east coast bloggers.


Dear Pre-Motherhood Self,

Happy Mother’s Day! You’re going to become a mom very soon. It’s going to be both everything and nothing at all like you’ve always imagined it to be.

You’re going to be amazing, even when it feels like you’re failing miserably. Your hardest critic is going to be yourself, but you’re going to learn how to parent yourself in the process, and you’re going to come out the other end stronger than ever.

There will be days, weeks, and months that feel like you’re just treading water, and I know this sounds scary, but your darkest days are yet to come. It may feel like a setback at the time, but wait until you see what a leap you’re going to make. You’re going to grow and it’s going to be beautiful.

Right now you’re studying up on all the different parenting techniques and figuring out what kind of humans you plan to raise. But what you aren’t preparing for is how these tiny humans will raise you. They have a gift for you and that gift is hope and healing.

There will be times when your world is void of color. You’ll have black days and gray days. But eventually, you’ll have days filled with color again, I promise!

Your children will be the greatest gift you’ll ever receive, and not in the material sense. Your two babies will be the reason you get help. The reason you reach out and access the care that you so desperately need and deserve.

Just relax and just breathe. It’s going to be a wonderful journey. And like every good journey, it’s not about the destination. Everything that is about to happen will happen for a reason. Be strong and please, for the love of god, just hold on.

Love from,

You as a mom of two!

Photo by Morgan Webb Photography

Now on to the blog hop! Check out some of my blogger friends below and see what they’re up to on their blogs for Mothers Day!

East Coast Moms Blog Hop - A Collection of Blog Posts Celebrating Motherhood


Stephanie @ Mommyzoid

 

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  • Beautiful post. I wish I could have written advice to my pre-motherhood self, too. I’d tell her to freaking relax. 🙂

  • I love this letter especially the part about it’s not about the destination but about what is happening along the way. How true that is and how important to remember the moments as they are happening.